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Tuesday, November 5, 2013
Lying is stating something, either written, oral, or with other signals, with the intent to mislead.
In other words, lying has two components: 1) a statement of one kind or another, and 2) the intent to mislead.
If your son says, “There are no more chocolate chips,” to deceive you because he wants to sneak some into his backpack, then he’s lying. If he says, “There are no more chocolate chips,” as a joke because you need another cup for the cookies and he is teasing you, that’s okay as long as he’s just playing a game. Children need to understand the difference between these two types of scenarios and realize that they can’t change their minds about the intent after they say the words.
This brings us to an interesting problem. Sometimes when children are caught lying they will say, “I was just joking,” or “I didn’t really mean it.” They know that this would be a viable excuse. Children need to understand that the difference between joking and lying has to do with intent and with whether or not they are believed. We need to be careful when we tease or joke. If you have a problem with lying in your home you may want to discontinue that kind of teasing for a while.
This parenting tip comes Chapter 8 in the book, Good and Angry, Exchanging Frustration for Character In You and Your Kids by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. The chapter is entitled "Honesty: Giving the Gift of Integrity."
Blog post used from http://www.biblicalparenting.info/.
Tuesday, October 29, 2013
Changing your mind isn't always bad but you need to make a distinction for your child between the new information and the process of how you got it, "I would like to change my mind here, but I'm feeling uncomfortable with the way you're talking to me. Your arguing is not helpful in our relationship and I don't want to encourage it by changing my mind. You have a good point but your exasperated tone of voice is demanding and disrespectful."
You may choose to stick to a no answer in spite of new and persuasive information. As a parent you're not just making a decision based on information, but you're also looking at how your child presents that information, and how this child treats you and your relationship in the process. After all, character is more important than the decision.
This parenting tip comes from the book, Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids, by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.
Blog post taken from this site.